“Even if the sentence is light, hopefully this will wake people up,” she said. “I want the judge to know that he ignited a tiny fire. If anything, this is a reason for all of us to speak even louder.”
I’m going out on a limb a bit today. I will bring it back to picture books at the end, because
"Reading fiction... gives us the ability to feel empathy for people we've never met, living lives we couldn't possibly experience for ourselves, because the book puts us inside the character's skin," Ann Patchett
but I want to talk about something I’ve been thinking about a lot this week: the powerful impact statement written and read out by a woman at the sentencing hearing for a young man in the US who sexually assaulted her. Found guilty of three serious offences and never admitting his guilt, the perpetrator was given a six-month sentence.
"Reading fiction... gives us the ability to feel empathy for people we've never met, living lives we couldn't possibly experience for ourselves, because the book puts us inside the character's skin," Ann Patchett
but I want to talk about something I’ve been thinking about a lot this week: the powerful impact statement written and read out by a woman at the sentencing hearing for a young man in the US who sexually assaulted her. Found guilty of three serious offences and never admitting his guilt, the perpetrator was given a six-month sentence.
This is my attempt at speaking even louder, bearing in mind that this is a picture book site…
The story surrounding this case has really struck a chord with me. There were definitely some similarities between the woman’s story and my own. I too was subjected to “twenty minutes of action” (as the father referred to his son’s behaviour in the current case) which also turned my whole world upside down; I was rescued by two strangers who chased after and caught/helped the police catch the perpetrator even before I was picked up and taken off to The Rape Suite for a night of invasive examinations, blood tests, injections and endless questioning. And my attacker also claimed not to have any recollection of the incident (having been high on drugs). But the similarities end there.
People of my age can probably remember the Chris Morris Brass Eye black comedy sketch about ‘Good Aids’ (those who contracted HIV through infected blood transfusions) and ‘Bad Aids’ (from homosexual sex). Well, so it seems that for some people there’s ‘Good Rape/Assault’ and ‘Bad Rape/Assault’. ‘Good’ involves a stranger, the victim wearing dowdy clothes and having drunk no alcohol and taken no drugs. Oh, and definitely not being a prostitute. ‘Bad’, on the other hand, involves a woman having drunk alcohol/taken drugs, knowing or having at least met the perpetrator, the woman wearing ‘provocative’ clothes, and/or quite possibly, being sexual promiscuous or even a prostitute. But both the ‘good’ and the ‘bad’ involve a man raping/assaulting a woman (or man)...
My experience definitely fell into the ‘good’ category. Even whilst I was in shock and being examined by the police doctor that night, I was aware of the unfairness of the system as the doctor reassured me that it was a very good thing –as long as the tests backed up my statement, of course- as I’d not drunk any alcohol or taken any drugs. And I’d clearly been wearing dowdy clothes (including my great aunt’s unfashionable, but warm, coat) as I walked home –I could see they believed I hadn’t been ‘asking for it’. “Most of the women I examine are prostitutes,” said the doctor, conspiratorially. Even then, I felt the unfairness of being treated with a respect that other women probably weren’t getting.
Why should it have mattered if I had been drinking? (I might well have drunk –I’d been at a social event, but for some reason I can’t remember I happen not to have drunk anything that night.) Why should it have changed anything if I’d been dressed up? And why should someone attacking me have been less serious if I had been a prostitute?
Why should it have mattered if I had been drinking? (I might well have drunk –I’d been at a social event, but for some reason I can’t remember I happen not to have drunk anything that night.) Why should it have changed anything if I’d been dressed up? And why should someone attacking me have been less serious if I had been a prostitute?
Although my attacker entered a plea of not guilty whilst on remand (because he claimed he couldn’t remember the event), he changed his plea on the day of the court case. As a result, the judge reduced his sentence (for not putting me through the trauma of a court case -and also because of the defendant’s own traumatic childhood), from about nine years, to five. This is the judge for whom the police had a nickname because he was so lenient (they warned me in court when they saw who it was that the sentence would probably be much shorter than they’d predicted). So a substantially reduced sentence by a judge deemed to be lenient, of five years -compared with six months in the Stanford case. There were no family members arguing the case for my attacker (on the contrary, his step family came to the initial hearing and told my then boyfriend that he should ‘do him over’ for them, and at the final hearing, they clapped when he was sentenced), and he wasn't at university or a strong athlete (he was of no fixed abode and not athletic).
I could talk about the difference in our cases in terms of closure for me, and lack of closure for the woman in the current case –where I wrote to my perpetrator in prison (as did my brother) and he wrote back absolutely accepting full responsibility, saying ‘I was nothing more than an animal and I should have been put down for what I did to you’ and that he’d never cried till he read my letter, and how he’d since decided to take anger management courses in prison even though it meant he’d stay in longer; and how he’d requested to go to a half-way house on his release so he would be supervised. And that he promised that he’d never come back to the city in which he had attacked me so that I could be confident I would never bump into him. This, compared with the current case where the attacker has not accepted any guilt. The turn of events after the attack for me, down to my treatment by the police, the judge, even the defence barrister, as well as the perpetrator admitting full responsibility and being extremely remorseful, made it all much easier to move on from.
But that’s not what this post is about.
I wanted to say something about consent, which is what so much of this boils down to. No one was ever going to argue over whether I had consented –I was followed home by a stranger and he was caught literally red-handed (with mostly his own blood from the weapon he’d been holding). I had been asked loads of questions about my sexual history but as they’d established this was never going to be a case of whether I’d given consent or not, I’d not felt worried about those questions being used against me in court. But how grim that the same answers might have been used against another woman where consent could be questioned.
I know many women who have been sexually assaulted by men –almost all of them men that they knew –boyfriends, acquaintances, family members. As far as I know, I am the only one who actually went to the police –out of all the people I know who have been assaulted. And as well as fear, this has a lot to do with knowing how incredibly hard it is to get a conviction for someone when lack of consent may be questioned.
So, consent. There’s a great video used by Thames Valley police about consent
Animation courtesy of Emmeline May at rockstardinosaurpirateprincess.com and Blue Seat Studios. Copyright © 2015
But this is not a video to show to young children. So what can we do as picture book authors and illustrators to help children understand about consent and taking responsibility, and empathy from a young age? (And I’m not saying that the man in question in the current case would have done anything differently had he read certain picture books as a child –I don’t know the man and I’m not going to comment on his family here.)
Research is clear that reading stories helps children become more empathic.
Here's an article from the Guardian on the benefits of reading for empathy: http://www.theguardian.com/teacher-network/2015/may/13/reading-teach-children-empathy
"Fiction is not just a simulator of a social experience, it is a social experience," writes psychologist David Comer Kidd, whose paper, Reading Literary Fiction Improves Theory of Mind was published in Science in 2013.
And again:
"Reading fiction... gives us the ability to feel empathy for people we've never met, living lives we couldn't possibly experience for ourselves, because the book puts us inside the character's skin," Ann Patchett.
We need picture books with diverse characters so that all people can see themselves in some books and all people can get a sense of how it might be to be someone else in other books.
Here's an article from the Guardian on the benefits of reading for empathy: http://www.theguardian.com/teacher-network/2015/may/13/reading-teach-children-empathy
"Fiction is not just a simulator of a social experience, it is a social experience," writes psychologist David Comer Kidd, whose paper, Reading Literary Fiction Improves Theory of Mind was published in Science in 2013.
And again:
"Reading fiction... gives us the ability to feel empathy for people we've never met, living lives we couldn't possibly experience for ourselves, because the book puts us inside the character's skin," Ann Patchett.
We need picture books with diverse characters so that all people can see themselves in some books and all people can get a sense of how it might be to be someone else in other books.
So Much (c) Trish Cooke and Helen Oxenbury
Siddarth and Rinki (c) Addy Farmer and Karin Littlewood
We need strong female characters
(A video showing a reading of Emily Brown...)
The Kite Princess (c) Juliet Clare Bell and Laura-Kate Chapman
and strong male characters
Oliver Who Was Small But Mighty (c) Mara Bergman and Nick Maland
Marshall Armstrong is New to Our School (c) David Mackintosh
We need good picture books about friendship and compassion;
That's What Friends Do (c) Kathryn Cave and Nick Maland
That's What Friends Do (c) Kathryn Cave and Nick Maland
(and a video reading of it)
about compromise
Best Friends or Not? (c) Paeony Lewis and Gaby Hansen
Simple kindness
How Kind! (c) Mary Murphy
Extra Yarn (c) Mac Barnett and Jon Klassen
Charlie is My Darling (c) Malachy Doyle and Stephen Lambert
How Kind! (c) Mary Murphy
(and a fab reading of How Kind!)
about unconditional love
No Matter What (c) Debi Gliori
about unconditional love
No Matter What (c) Debi Gliori
and about accepting people for who they are.
Dandylion (c) Lizzie Finlay
Dandylion (c) Lizzie Finlay
We need picture books with LGBT characters
King and King (c) Linda de Haan and Stern Nijland
And Tango Makes Three (c) Justin Richardson, Peter Parnell and Henry Cole
And see this Guardian article for more LGBT picture books
We need books with children with disabilities that aren’t about their disabilities
The Unstoppable Maggie McGee (c) Juliet Clare Bell and Dave Gray
We need picture books about bullies and people who are being bullied; standing up to bullies and taking responsibility for your own bad behaviour towards other people...
Little Rabbit Foo Foo (c) Michael Rosen and Arthur Robins
(and a video of it)
Something Else (c) Kathryn Cave and Chris Riddell
Little Rabbit Foo Foo (c) Michael Rosen and Arthur Robins
(and a video of it)
Something Else (c) Kathryn Cave and Chris Riddell
(and a video of it)
and about doing the right thing even when it’s not the easy option
Those Shoes (c) Maribeth Boelts and Noah Z Jones
and about never taking advantage of your greater physical strength to get something from someone without their consent or permission...
only I can't think of a book that does this. Does anyone know of one I can add in here? Please let me know in the comments, below...
only I can't think of a book that does this. Does anyone know of one I can add in here? Please let me know in the comments, below...
And we need books that show how even the small actions of one person can have big consequences for another person, good or bad (humorous over the top books that make us think about cause and effect are really valuable)...
Mouse Creeps (c) Peter Harris and Reg Cartwright
If You Give a Mouse a Cookie (c) Laura Joffe Numeroff and Felicia Bond
And we need books that show the folly of a misguided sense of entitlement.
Louis I King of Sheep (c) Olivier Tallac
The Tiger Who Would be King (c) James Thurber and Jodhee Yoon
The Tiger Who Would be King (c) James Thurber and Jodhee Yoon
We need books that show children that teasing that is not actively being enjoyed by the subject of the teasing is neither funny nor ok –whether it’s coming from adults or other children. It is categorically not funny if the person in question does not find it funny. This is a really important lesson for understanding consent (can anyone think of a picture book that touches on this?). And we need books about inspirational people. In my author visits for Two Brothers and a Chocolate Factory: the Remarkable Story of Richard and George Cadbury (illustrated by Jess Mikhail), we look at what George and Richard did to improve the lives of other people in the community and we discuss what we can do, individually and collectively, to have a positive impact on the people around us.
Two Brothers and a Chocolate Factory: The Remarkable Story of Richard and George Cadbury (c) Juliet Clare Bell and Jess Mikhail.
There are many, many picture books that help children to empathise with others, and see the consequences of their actions -and see these posts for more recommendations, and this one, this one from Scholastic, and this excellent list from Book Trust,
-but let's keep making more. Moreover, we need for them to be read by people who may not be picking up these messages from their own environments. So we need our libraries and our librarians and our enthusiastic teachers and educators.
-but let's keep making more. Moreover, we need for them to be read by people who may not be picking up these messages from their own environments. So we need our libraries and our librarians and our enthusiastic teachers and educators.
Books alone aren’t going to stop all terrible things happening to people at the hands of other people. But we can play our small part in helping children become more empathic, have more personal responsibility and understand that no means no.
Which picture books would you recommend for encouraging empathy/compassion/respect in the reader? Please leave any recommended books in the comments section below.
Thank you.
Juliet Clare Bell
